[38.0.0] feat: rework `requireRestart` to `getActionOnUpdateTo` to control restart/task-disruption behavior

[github-actions]

{
"source_pr": "19700",
"target_version": "38.0.0",
"message": "Backport #19700 to release branch for version 38.0.0",
"note": "Add the approved label to start the automatic backport process."
}