Take an active role in stopping problematic behavior

[ashedryden]

lead by example — if a discussion is devolving into snark and name-calling, either let it die or raise the tone

I would suggest taking an active role in these types of incidents. As group leaders, I assume you'll also act as moderators. Step in, cite the code of conduct, let people know that the thread is now closed, etc.

[h-lame]

Yes, definitely.

Do you think we need to explicitly say that we'll be doing this? We wanted the code to be focussed on what you as an attendee should be doing, and not give you the get-out clause of "oh, a moderator or organiser will step in so I can keep quiet".

[ashedryden]

Not everyone feels comfortable standing up and saying something, especially if they are the target of abuse and the only person inside that particular marginalized group.

I think you can say both: "While the organizers will step in as soon as we see poor behavior, we also encourage you to say something if you see it first" or something?

[aanand]

@ashedryden: do you think f52094d looks good? Hopefully it'll encourage the privileged to speak up whilst reassuring those less comfortable / more of a potential target.