Report every finished request to an optional observer

[ewanc26]

Needed by MetalBear, which wants per-endpoint and per-status request metrics
and currently cannot get them from anything the server exposes.

Nothing in the server sees a request together with its outcome. The auth
callback is the closest thing, and it:

• runs before the status is decided, so it can attribute no status to
  anything,
• never runs at all for a plain HTTP route, and
• never runs for a request the rate limiter refused.

A consumer counting requests there is counting a subset it cannot name. The
429 case is the sharpest: a refusal the operator never sees counted is exactly
the one they most need to see.

wf_xrpc_server_set_request_observer is called once per request from every
path that decides a status, on the worker thread serving the connection — it
is for incrementing a counter, not for writing to a socket, and the header
says so.

WF_XRPC_HAS_REQUEST_OBSERVER lets a consumer build against a Wolfram with or
without the observer rather than forcing a lockstep upgrade.

Verification

137/137 ctest, including a new xrpc_server_observer case that covers each
of the three blind spots above — a handler's own non-200 status, an
auth-refused route, a plain HTTP route, an unregistered method, and clearing
the observer back to NULL.

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