Fix some issues when building with the latest CUDA and cuDNN versions

[skottmckay]

Description

Fix some issues when building with the latest CUDA and cuDNN versions on Windows.

• Latest cuDNN install has the CUDA toolkit version in the path.
  • Adjust cmake files to support that.
• CUDA 13.x drops support for compute capability 6.0 and 7.0.
  • Remove from CMAKE_CUDA_ARCHITECTURES.
• Remove a LINK_LANGUAGE:CUDA flag for CETCOMPAT
  • Syntax doesn't seem to be supported with MSVC. Build is successful without this (CUDA 13.1, cuDNN 9.17).
    • LINK : warning LNK4044: unrecognized option '/Xlinker=/CETCOMPAT'; ignored [D:\src\github\ort.cuda\build\Windows.CUDA\Debug\onnxruntime_providers_cuda_ut.vcxproj]
• Memory leak checker fixes
  • onnxruntime_providers_cuda_ut was incorrectly linking against ORT common causing a duplicate symbol when the debug leak checker is enabled (multiple overrides of new and delete.
    • As the CUDA EP is built as a separate library it shouldn't need to link against common.
  • Use the debug alloc/free for provider bridge when leak checker is enabled
  • Ignore EtwEventWriteNoRegistration in leak checker output as we don't control that.

Motivation and Context